Negative Trader Feedback - How to leave negative feedback without retribution?

I am kind of confused on this subject. Here is an example:

John Doe buys some MSD wires from Frankie Avalon for $50 shipped. After he has paid Frankie in full, Frankie takes 6 weeks to send the wires, and when they are finally received by John, EVERY one of them are cut in half. So John immediately leaves negative feedback on Frankie, and as soon as Frankie sees that he has received negative feedback, he does the same to John, even though John has done NOTHING faulty.

Do you see my point? I mean I know you can go to the moderators and John can try to get the negative feedback he received removed, and maybe the moderator will do it, or maybe he will also listen to a bunch of BS made up by Frankie and he will refuse to. I dont know.

Anyone have any opinions on this?

Also on a side note, whenever I have done business on a forum classifieds, if I was the seller, as SOOOON as I received money from the buyer, I left positive feedback for him IMMEDIATELY. I figure their end of the job is done, and that was to pay me. Period. That is really the ONLY responsibility the buyer has. The only reason I can see that a seller would wait to leave feedback is just to make sure that they receive positive, and if they don't.... pull a stunt like the example up above.

You shouldn't leave positive feedback for someone right after they've paid for the item. That just muddies the waters if they try to scam you after they recieve the shipment. Wait until the transaction has been completed & the buyer is satisfied before leaving feedback.

If someone sends you a broken part you need to contact them ASAP & see if they are willing to make it right. Sometimes mistakes happen. If both parties are civil & willing to work with each other you would be surprised how easily things can be resolved.

If you contact someone & they refuse to make things right you need to file a paypal claim ASAP. At that point leave them negative feedback & post up what happened in this section along with pictures as proof that you got scammed. If he counters & leaves you negative feedback, contact a moderator about it. If you post pictures of the damage then you shouldn't have a problem getting the negative feedback rescinded.

yep........thats how i got my 1 negative.

part was not as described.....he said ship it back cod & then he would send my money back.i did not like the idea of him having my money & the part...i smelled a rat!

i did not want to send it cod but after a moderator told me to go ahead & send it...well i did send it cod......
the post office informed me that they left a few notices of trying to deliver or he could come pick it up at the post office....well that never happened.

i got it back a few weeks later in the mail.......now i am out even more money.

i take selling & buying serious.....when i get money i ship the part out usually next day & if you cant ship it fast then inform the buyer.....most people are very understanding.

yeah, its a flawed system......all you can do is hope you are dealing with a honest person that has a little integrity on the other end of the deal your doing.

I hear you on that one heymoej. Sometimes all you CAN do is hope that they are honest. Thanks for the responses guys!