getting tuned
1-->2 shift is 5950 stock, 2-->3 is 5400, so yeah, a bump to 6000 makes sense.
I wouldn't bother having traction control turned off, we have a button for that.
You probably want to have both engine and transmission torque management backed off, and maybe increase the transmission shift pressures. Increasing the torque converter clutch duty cycle can help reduce some slippage, but you don't want the tuner to go too high with that or it lurches when moving in and out of DOD. (not really an issue if you have DOD disabled)
Some people disable the 'differential score' setting - stops the throttle from slamming closed if you spin the wheels around a corner - but if you do that too much, it's new diff time.

I believe you have the new E67 ECM that doesn't have a VE table, so I expect your tuner will probably just tune your airflow via the MAF. If you're interested, there's a guy over on the HPT bulletin board named Bluecat that created a program to solve and adjust the equations used in speed density mode. He posted the link to the download, and a quick search will find it.
If your tuner uses a dyno, you probably want to have your WOT timing adjusted for max torque. I found that the '05 really doesn't want much more timing before KR shows up, but then we only have 91 octane generally available here (two places on the opposite side of town have 94, but I'm not doing a 60 mile round trip every time I want to fill up).
I guess those are pretty much the basics.
take pictures and document what the fellow does, its useful knowledge--and let us know too. its interesting to see different schools of thought on tuning.

