I did some pressure testing to ensure the trans wasn't in high line or lacking pressure, all checked out within spec, so out with the valve body. As Chris suspected, the check ***** had beaten the stock separator plate up pretty badly, and to not bother him again, I discussed with my local guy and decided to install the hd2 kit I had on hand. Good decision, as the trans shifted too softly afterword, and allowed the stock mapping for the force motor to be re-entered into the tune. A couple more very small base pressure tweaks in the tune and I arrived right where I wanted to be, firm shifts, but I can't get the tires to chirp, ever. As stated, this is for my customer's wife, not a fast or race application; just needs to run great all the time, like a new car, so she will use and drive it.
Contrary to what was stated in the link offered, the computer does NOT have full control over everything in the trans, it fine tunes the transmission's function from the base fluid accumulation and hole sizes, clutch clearances, etc... and sometimes the mechanical side needs some changes. I went with the smallest hole sizing in the plate for shift feel of the 1-2, 2-3, and 3-4, then ramped in a stock pressure map with the force motor, and with the stock, tight convertor, it shifts great. I am sure if it had a 3000 stall convertor, it would be a complete slushbox, but I am very satisfied with my results.