I have everything completed, but when I went to connect the reverse lockout solenoid up to pin 44 of the red connector on the PCM.. there isn't anything there Is there something I can buy to add a pin to that empty hole on the connector??

 

A trick is to wire it through the brake switch. Brake on/ solenoid activated/ inhibiting load release. Since you should be stopped/ nearly stopped for reverse, this is do-able logic. As long as your foot is off the brake, the reverse inhibitor load is on( solenoid un-activated)

 

Yep, I did mine like calhoon mentioned.

On my 98, I tapped into the blue wire on the brake switch.