I always miss the good posts when I work all day...

Sounds awesome! Go for it and have fun. Kids are great, have a few. When your modding you do things like me (for the kids) removable center bar on the roll cage so thy can get in and out out easier, lol.

But better safe than sorry...can you say "prenuptial".

 

Sounds like a good plan, Bobby! Go for it!

Damn, 8 years of not being able to fart around her - how painful! It's about time you got married!

 

So any new news Bobby?

 

There is nothing in the contract called marriage that benefits men. And what's strange is that we sign it anyway, when we're intoxicated and not able to make decisions. Heck we don't even read it. So my advice is.... don't do it. OR.... get a nice pre-nup that will keep you both in line. That's what I did and my marriage is great for 4 years now.

 

Heh... well my wife had most everything of worth before we got together, so that definitely wasn't necessary in my case. Hell... if anyone should have wanted a pre-nup, it should have been her. I think I came into the relationship with my car, a big TV, an oversized recliner, and more debt than I could shake a checkbook at.

At least with her help, we've been able to get pretty much debt free in the last two years... I certainly couldn't do it by myself.

 

ohhh... advice over the internet.... hrm....

Wait...I know who you are!

I think the women are on to something here, and so I'm glad noone has come up with any bright ideas (what did you expect on this forum? )

Any woman who has lived with you as long as Jyla has would know if a single part of your proposal came form anyone but you. In the end... it doesnt matter how corny it is as long as it's sincere. Usually the two go hand in hand.

I think your idea is a good one. She will know it was all your thinking because there is a cake involved. (I had to say it... I couldnt help it )

Ive said before that there are three rising levels two people can commit to each other with:

1. Getting married. Depending on the state you are a resident of, this can be simple to divorce (Tx, NV), or a huge hulking pain in the *** (MD, NY, etc).
2. Signing up together on a mortgage: To me, this is harder to get out of than a marraige. Sounds morbid, but a mortgage has got you by the ***** more so than only one thing. You guys can be divorced and hate each other... but if you are upside down in a house, or both want it, etc... you can end up having to live with each other even after you are divorced... all because neither one of you has the credit or income to re-fi the house, and oftentimes one can't just out and sell it for everything they owe.
3. Having kids: This is the ultimate level of commitment, only because you are making a serious life long commitment to someone else other than your spouse. And the kid's happiness, well being, and future all depend measurably on you holding up that commitment. There are millions of divorced parents who hate each other but have to deal with each other forever, more than once a week, all to make sure the kids get to the right parent for the righht weekend, school, whatever.

Anyways.... didn't mean to lecture anyone. My "net-out" here is that there are things more worth being nervous about than a proposal to a girl that has been waiting for it. There *ARE* bigger decisions in life too. It sounds to me that you have made a sound decision...
So do your thing and let us know how you mess it up

We all mess SOME part of the proposal up...
I took my then-girlfriend to a romantic mountaintop overlooking Austin. We had had a few glasses of wine and I was about to propose when two other people came walking over near us. I wanted a little privacy so I waited a few minutes until they would leave. But the two of them came right near us and the guy said to the girl:
"You know XXXXX and YYYYY? He proposed up here. And I was like 'Dude, everybody proposes up there! Didnt she see how lame that was? You could have been more creative than that."
"XXXXX and YYYYY? No ****? God thats such a ******* cliche'! Sometimes I wonder if half the couples up here are proposing."

Seriously, I was ready to turn around and beat down two people. I think my girl had a clue, because she started laughing at something... and it could have only been how red and crazed I looked.
I did end up asking her... on that rock, on that night. And she said "It could be the worst cliche in the book. But it's what you wanted to do.... It's what I hoped you'd do, and I'm very happy you did it just that way."

Good luck

 

That is really pretty funny and it's good it turned out in the end. I can perfectly visualize some jackass couple saying that! She probably said yes because you were able to resist the urge to beat down

 

Got back it went really well, had a great weekend. She LOVED the ring and was caught off gaurd in a nice way. I was more nervous about making it nice for her than I was her saying yes. She would have said yes no matter how I asked her just wanted it to be nice for her.

Thanks!

Bobby

 

Congrats man! Glad it went well...

 

I'll stop by with a beer

(and a cable too, probably)

 

congrats, whaen is the big day?

 

You obviously don't know me then! I threw the box w/the ring in it at her cuz she was bitching that I hadn't given her a ring yet.

Oh, wedded bliss.

I'll turn gay before I get married again.

 

Bobby,
Ya did good and from your plans there wasn't much any of us 'gals' could add - you were better off getting input from the guys

First Proposal: "Wanna bet $50 on how long we stay married?"

Second Proposal: Went over for dinner, found the place filled with flowers and candles. He had written a song and played it - the proposal *was* the song (he was good so it didn't sound wonky). Handed me a card afterward with thre ring in it and asked me to marry him while putting it on my finger.

Third Proposal: "Hey! Check this out...there is a judge that performs weddings. Should I try to contact them?"
(we won a week long trip to Mazatlan and were doing some internet research on what to do while we were there).
We bought rings down there, silver with gold inlay that suited us just fine. The years have flown by since then.

There is no fourth proposal - unless its like my Grandpa, a widower at 81 remarried a woman 6 years older so they could live together without breaking Catholic doctrine. The Priest tried not to laugh - he told them it was okay if they wanted to live together without getting married but it would be nice in the eyes of the church. Grandpa put on his best suit, took Liz out to an expensive dinner and proposed over a martini. Awwwwwwwwww

 

Congradulations Bobby!!!!

 

Congrats bobby!!!

 

And these days, you can do that in Massachusetts. And here in Portland, we are generally OK with that