3.5 years feels like its falling down the drain... trust issues, insecurity, jealousy, its like what is next? she grabbed clothes and just left last night......its hard to throw away that much time and work into a relationship but its liek god damn, enough is enough? make this the bs thread idk....within an hour after she left, i was out going sideways down streets tho so that helped... ERRR IHATE WOMEN!! cept when they naked!

 

That's part of being married/in a relationship. My wife and I have been through some hard times and all you can do is work through them. Seems like years 4-6 were pretty rough but we have been together for about 8 years now and all and all it has been good.

If shes seeing someone else then just kick her to the curb and start over. You will never let that just die.

 

Man 4 years is a long time but FOREVER is longer. If you see yourself marrying this girl and you see her being the mother of your kids, then stay with it. If not, nows the time to cut it loose. It will be hard but it will be harder if your married and have kids in the mix. Not to mention you will lose Half of whatever you do have, plus child support. All three of the issues you listed take time to over come, and when I mean time, like YEARS...

Goood luck

 

trust issues, insecurity, jealousy<<<those are her problems not mine haha... the only problem i think i have, is im a guy... which im sure we could all agree, we are almost all the same.... idk time will tell i suppose

 

kwikkar, i was just out in haslet on saturday to get a PnB TB... SNL performance i believe... man its bare out there!

 

**** happens, and if you have feeling for the woman, the question is, is the juice worth the squeeze? Been there and done it, women ae ALL bitches and men...we are all ********. That is life, if you cannot agree you are simply in denial. Getting along through the years can seem impossible and when things are up and great, just know that they will be down where you dont want them in no time. The, snap, they are backup again.

 

They are not all bad.. My wife of 11 years gave me the Ok to go buy myself a ZO6.

 

Wow! I was going to say that this is probably not the best place to air that kind of laundry and that you need to talk to some close friends or a "relationship coach or counselor. But these guys have REALLY suprised me and have given you some "right on" advice.
The lowest common denominator in anyone becoming upset is "unmet expectations". Do a gut check on what you expect and base your decisions on that.

 

ya the reason i posted on here, is we on here are all alike...we share common insterest in our cars, and thats a start, which means im sure we are more alike then people may think. and i have read the advise others give on here, and its normaly never bad... thx guys

 

Everyone goes through these type of situations. I say give it a few days so everyone can calm down and then just talk. People never realize how helpful just talking can be.

 

Just be careful with SNL buddy. Pm me if you want..

 

I got one for ya.I was w/my ex wife for 10yrs as BF/GF then we got married and she wanted out 10 months later.That was my chance to run far away and that was the best move i ever made.

 

if she's insecure...it will never get better, no matter how hard you try. Been there, done that.
If she doesn't feel "up to par" or isn't happy with herself, it will take a toll on the relationship. Women are strange...no matter how many times people tell us we're pretty/hott/sexy/beautiful, unless we believe it, ourselves, the compliments will fall on deaf ears.

Insecurity breeds trust issues, jealousy and even control issues. Ask her if she's happy with herself, her life, her looks...try to get to the deeper issue. It's more than likely not you, but her.

 

haha its nice to have some females on the site to sort of chime in... its nice to get a mixed response

 

Me and my girl of over 2 years broke up last week, she found out that I was doin somthin I shouldnt've been doin

 

My wife left me a note on the counter saying "thanks for the memories" with the divorce papers underneath them last night when I came home

 

Woman, cant live with them, cant live without them.

 

that seems a bit like your fault hahaha... sorry to hear that tho


man, i must say, that is harsh... gl with it all man

 

been in the same situation and i changed my whole mentalitly towards women and relationships after being **** on....now i dont give a **** or even **** or try which is great for scoring ***** cause girls like ******* but not good for relationships.....just say **** it man and go have sum fun u only live once ya know

 

It was lol I didnt know she knew how to unlock my phone and I had a text message in there tellin another chick that I had already broke up with my girl so we could "hang out" if you know what I mean