GF probs - need help/advice/thoughts - i'm pissed
05-08-2008, 01:17 AM
#22
haha. i have an 8 yo son that i love with all my heart.. his mom and i were together 6 years and.. uhh... she fucked up.. so he lives with her and i'm paying cs for him but that's alright.. i loved her and i love him with all my heart. THIS however, is a COMPLETELY DIFFERENT situation
**** that. Make sure that **** doesnt happen to you. Thats an expensive 18 yr car payment.
05-08-2008, 01:20 AM
#24
sounds like you have a gold digger on your hands.
you're not even married to her, so she has ZERO say in what you spend YOUR money on, which YOU worked for.....especially if she's not even living with you.
and like rayosequis said, you're her rebound guy, the one she thinks she can suck as much money out of as she wants until she gets her own **** back, if she even does at all....then she'll lose interest and go find some rich guy to pay for everything for her.
i mean, think about it this way, why did her marriage not work in the first place, and why would the guy feel compelled to do such a thing as to take all her stuff away from her? maybe it's because he paid for ALL of it, and feels that she doesn't deserve it? she probably made his life a living hell.....i would never do anything to an ex like that unless she deserved it.
kick her to the curb!
you're not even married to her, so she has ZERO say in what you spend YOUR money on, which YOU worked for.....especially if she's not even living with you.
and like rayosequis said, you're her rebound guy, the one she thinks she can suck as much money out of as she wants until she gets her own **** back, if she even does at all....then she'll lose interest and go find some rich guy to pay for everything for her.
i mean, think about it this way, why did her marriage not work in the first place, and why would the guy feel compelled to do such a thing as to take all her stuff away from her? maybe it's because he paid for ALL of it, and feels that she doesn't deserve it? she probably made his life a living hell.....i would never do anything to an ex like that unless she deserved it.
kick her to the curb!
05-08-2008, 01:22 AM
#25
sounds like you have a gold digger on your hands.
you're not even married to her, so she has ZERO say in what you spend YOUR money on, which YOU worked for.....especially if she's not even living with you.
and like rayosequis said, you're her rebound guy, the one she thinks she can suck as much money out of as she wants until she gets her own **** back, if she even does at all....then she'll lose interest and go find some rich guy to pay for everything for her.
i mean, think about it this way, why did her marriage not work in the first place, and why would the guy feel compelled to do such a thing as to take all her stuff away from her? maybe it's because he paid for ALL of it, and feels that she doesn't deserve it? she probably made his life a living hell.....i would never do anything to an ex like that unless she deserved it.
kick her to the curb!
you're not even married to her, so she has ZERO say in what you spend YOUR money on, which YOU worked for.....especially if she's not even living with you.
and like rayosequis said, you're her rebound guy, the one she thinks she can suck as much money out of as she wants until she gets her own **** back, if she even does at all....then she'll lose interest and go find some rich guy to pay for everything for her.
i mean, think about it this way, why did her marriage not work in the first place, and why would the guy feel compelled to do such a thing as to take all her stuff away from her? maybe it's because he paid for ALL of it, and feels that she doesn't deserve it? she probably made his life a living hell.....i would never do anything to an ex like that unless she deserved it.
kick her to the curb!
think i should let her read this thread? lol.. she's sleeping in my bed right now and i keep looking at her thinking it's over.... damn this is crazy ****....
05-08-2008, 01:23 AM
#26
cut it off now!!!! she will make it harder to do the longer you are with her. i can bet money on one thing. after you break it off with this one she will bomb your phone & text you to death trying to justify any reason for you to stay with her. itll be ******* tough on her part but if you can completely block her out of your life you will be ok. ive been thru this several times and even short term they cling on and refuse to let go! 
05-08-2008, 01:28 AM
#28
Well if ALL of you are saying the same thing... It's gotta be true... Sure sux *** cuz she's a bad *** girl but damn..... It hurts/sucks to think about it. Who's gonna iron my shirts now? Clean? Cook? Damn.......
but see, i've been through a lot of bullshit with girls too and she just seems legit for whatever reason. she's awesome BESIDES being needy IMO.... she has even said maybe we should take a break till she gets financially stable. should i do that? too much bs for me and this is why i started this thread to begin with
but see, i've been through a lot of bullshit with girls too and she just seems legit for whatever reason. she's awesome BESIDES being needy IMO.... she has even said maybe we should take a break till she gets financially stable. should i do that? too much bs for me and this is why i started this thread to begin with
05-08-2008, 01:36 AM
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Depending on the stuff that got jacked by her ex, if its not extremely valuable stuff tell her to drop the attorney and just let go of things that way the ATTY costs are un existent and then she can start making payments on things.
Also Im not trying to be rude, but I hate when women are dependent on men for financial help. I think a women should have a job, and help pay things aswell.
Its not fair to you that you are on better financial terms.
Just got to tell her hey, im sorry but this is how its going to be.
My GF is a geophysicist, and im graduating this saturday from my university and she has paid for over half the stuff we do together, cause she knows that I dont have alot of money and that I really love my car, and cars and general so she doesnt ride my *** about buying stuff for the car every now and then but trust me we haqve gotten into fights about the car.
Tell her its not your fault she went through a divorce, and that you are with her for love and not to govern how eachothers money is spent.
Also Im not trying to be rude, but I hate when women are dependent on men for financial help. I think a women should have a job, and help pay things aswell.
Its not fair to you that you are on better financial terms.
Just got to tell her hey, im sorry but this is how its going to be.
My GF is a geophysicist, and im graduating this saturday from my university and she has paid for over half the stuff we do together, cause she knows that I dont have alot of money and that I really love my car, and cars and general so she doesnt ride my *** about buying stuff for the car every now and then but trust me we haqve gotten into fights about the car.
Tell her its not your fault she went through a divorce, and that you are with her for love and not to govern how eachothers money is spent.
05-08-2008, 01:36 AM
#32
You are stupid for getting involved with a married woman.
You are a rebound, whether it's intentional or not.
She is using you, whether it's intentional or not.
You are asking for all kinds of trouble being involved with her.
i.e. you are exposed to all sorts of risk
If she will **** around on her husband, what do you think she will do to you?
This is the very definition of a bad deal. For your sake, I hope you snap out of this and run away!
PS: She is not your girlfriend, she is someone else's wife. She is just someone you're *******, and someone who's REALLY ******* you and it will only get worse. Get out!
You are a rebound, whether it's intentional or not.
She is using you, whether it's intentional or not.
You are asking for all kinds of trouble being involved with her.
i.e. you are exposed to all sorts of risk
If she will **** around on her husband, what do you think she will do to you?
This is the very definition of a bad deal. For your sake, I hope you snap out of this and run away!
PS: She is not your girlfriend, she is someone else's wife. She is just someone you're *******, and someone who's REALLY ******* you and it will only get worse. Get out!
05-08-2008, 01:37 AM
#33
cut it off now!!!! she will make it harder to do the longer you are with her. i can bet money on one thing. after you break it off with this one she will bomb your phone & text you to death trying to justify any reason for you to stay with her. itll be ******* tough on her part but if you can completely block her out of your life you will be ok. ive been thru this several times and even short term they cling on and refuse to let go!
05-08-2008, 01:38 AM
#34
oh AND - she has two sisters... one of which has 3 kids and uses every guy she gets with, and the other is pretty much the same from what i can tell. she and her bf recently broke up and all they could talk about was how they got his money so naturally it makes me wonder.......
maybe i do just need to kick her to the curb.. oh and she's trying to get preg with my kid......... man..........
maybe i do just need to kick her to the curb.. oh and she's trying to get preg with my kid......... man..........
you posted this, and you're still even wondering if things should be ended between you two?
i'd kick her *** out of my bed right now, tell her to take her **** with her and don't even bother trying to come back.
05-08-2008, 01:39 AM
#35
You are stupid for getting involved with a married woman.
You are a rebound, whether it's intentional or not.
She is using you, whether it's intentional or not.
You are asking for all kinds of trouble being involved with her.
i.e. you are exposed to all sorts of risk
This is the very definition of a bad deal. For your sake, I hope you snap out of this and run away!
You are a rebound, whether it's intentional or not.
She is using you, whether it's intentional or not.
You are asking for all kinds of trouble being involved with her.
i.e. you are exposed to all sorts of risk
This is the very definition of a bad deal. For your sake, I hope you snap out of this and run away!
what kind of trouble are you talking about? what risks exactly?
05-08-2008, 01:42 AM
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Sounds like they are still in to eachother.
I would just use her as a "punching bag"
and not get to comfortable with things.
If her sisters are like that, remember the acorn doesnt fall far from the tree
I would just use her as a "punching bag"
and not get to comfortable with things.If her sisters are like that, remember the acorn doesnt fall far from the tree
If it gets too out of hand I will hide your phone
05-08-2008, 01:42 AM
#38
THIS is why i posted this thread... i needed to hear it from other's perpectives
