Harness
#2
Yes it will work and there are no mandatory modifications. If you want reverse lockout to work per the factory (rather than completely disabling it), you'll have to tune the PCM and setup the switch. I think it's pin 8, connector 3. It's easiest to setup a simple on/off type button/switch.
#3
t-56 connectors
There are three connectors you will need you can find them on ebay here
http://www.ebay.com/itm/T56-Installation-Set-Backup-Lamp-Reverse-Lockout-and-VSS-Pigtail-Connectors-/251551540156?pt=Motors_Car_Truck_Parts_Accessories&hash=item3a91a3e3bc&vxp=mtr
Hope this helps
http://www.ebay.com/itm/T56-Installation-Set-Backup-Lamp-Reverse-Lockout-and-VSS-Pigtail-Connectors-/251551540156?pt=Motors_Car_Truck_Parts_Accessories&hash=item3a91a3e3bc&vxp=mtr
Hope this helps