GF probs - need help/advice/thoughts - i'm pissed
05-08-2008, 02:50 AM
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I'll offer up a slightly different opinion, just to stir things up.
First off, since you don't know if she's using you, don't get emotionally involved. Period.
Second, if she really is (which she appears to be), what's the harm in helping a fellow person get over the rough spot? I'm talking about providing food, shelter and a shoulder to cry on. Not manicures, jewelry and other extravagant stuff.
Talk with her, put it like that, and if she doesn't accept that, you should be fairly certain that she's using you.
How long have you guys been together btw ?
First off, since you don't know if she's using you, don't get emotionally involved. Period.
Second, if she really is (which she appears to be), what's the harm in helping a fellow person get over the rough spot? I'm talking about providing food, shelter and a shoulder to cry on. Not manicures, jewelry and other extravagant stuff.
Talk with her, put it like that, and if she doesn't accept that, you should be fairly certain that she's using you.
How long have you guys been together btw ?
05-08-2008, 02:56 AM
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I'll offer up a slightly different opinion, just to stir things up.
First off, since you don't know if she's using you, don't get emotionally involved. Period.
Second, if she really is (which she appears to be), what's the harm in helping a fellow person get over the rough spot? I'm talking about providing food, shelter and a shoulder to cry on. Not manicures, jewelry and other extravagant stuff.
Talk with her, put it like that, and if she doesn't accept that, you should be fairly certain that she's using you.
How long have you guys been together btw ?
First off, since you don't know if she's using you, don't get emotionally involved. Period.
Second, if she really is (which she appears to be), what's the harm in helping a fellow person get over the rough spot? I'm talking about providing food, shelter and a shoulder to cry on. Not manicures, jewelry and other extravagant stuff.
Talk with her, put it like that, and if she doesn't accept that, you should be fairly certain that she's using you.
How long have you guys been together btw ?
the length of time doesn't really matter so much though. i've been in long term ships and we really seem to understand each other.. she "gets me" and vice versa.. i haven't flet this way about anyone in 7 years. she is something special and it's not that cut and dry i don't think.. i just don't know..
Last edited by 6THZ28; 05-08-2008 at 03:07 AM.
05-08-2008, 03:49 AM
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lol this is rediculous... been here before and i will tell u this it is easier said than done just look at it like this u bought those tires to get ur *** to work to make the money u have and u bought that suit cause it is required for the job u have to make the money u do that she bitchs about cause u dont spend it on her.....it is ur money and she doesnt have a right to it!!!!!! u are the person in the spot and this is a burden on u if u can live with this than so be it but i would mention this to her that she is wanting a whole lot from this relationship and i would ask her what have she contributed to it and what she plans on giving......<- most female are going to say they are in for the long and yada yada but in reality u need to decide if u are wasting ur time and money cause trust me their is plenty of ***** in houston that u shouldnt be wound up over sum bullshit *** married ****** woman whos trying to clean ur *** out....more less a game if u give in she has u were she wants u and can pretty much get wat she wants when she want .......its called ***** whipped!!!!!! if u really like her tell her that she aint getting **** until u give it too her and if she really likes u she will stay if she is using u she will leave
and i am sorry for the grammer and punctuation cause it has none
and i am sorry for the grammer and punctuation cause it has none
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05-08-2008, 06:07 AM
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lol
on a serious note.. sorry about your troubles..
I am sure she is a nice girl, but 2 months into a relationship is way to early to be talking about each others finances, and what each should be doing with it..
My wife and I dated for 5 years before we got married, we have now been married for 9 years, and finances (joint accounts, savings, what we where looking at buying) didn't come into play until we where going to get married..
I think you should at least give her a chance to decide what needs to happen..
Tell her it's her decision.. she can either lay off, and not try, and control your financial situation, or she can be cool about it, and make life better between he 2 of you.. then when you feel comfortable helping her out, it would be your decision not her asking/demanding you help out.
Just my .02
05-08-2008, 06:14 AM
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05-08-2008, 06:16 AM
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.. it's "grammar", not grammer hehe Last edited by 6THZ28; 05-08-2008 at 06:38 AM.
05-08-2008, 06:28 AM
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on a serious note.. sorry about your troubles..
I am sure she is a nice girl, but 2 months into a relationship is way to early to be talking about each others finances, and what each should be doing with it..
My wife and I dated for 5 years before we got married, we have now been married for 9 years, and finances (joint accounts, savings, what we where looking at buying) didn't come into play until we where going to get married..
I think you should at least give her a chance to decide what needs to happen..
Tell her it's her decision.. she can either lay off, and not try, and control your financial situation, or she can be cool about it, and make life better between he 2 of you.. then when you feel comfortable helping her out, it would be your decision not her asking/demanding you help out.
Just my .02
I am sure she is a nice girl, but 2 months into a relationship is way to early to be talking about each others finances, and what each should be doing with it..
My wife and I dated for 5 years before we got married, we have now been married for 9 years, and finances (joint accounts, savings, what we where looking at buying) didn't come into play until we where going to get married..
I think you should at least give her a chance to decide what needs to happen..
Tell her it's her decision.. she can either lay off, and not try, and control your financial situation, or she can be cool about it, and make life better between he 2 of you.. then when you feel comfortable helping her out, it would be your decision not her asking/demanding you help out.
Just my .02
05-08-2008, 07:27 AM
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you are in the same sutuation that my friend was the only differents is that you can still get out of it. he can't cause shes pregrant and they were only going out for 3 months, now he has to take care of her and her 4 kids so my advice is to let her go asap. but it sound like you are falling for this girl to quick already that you are having second thoughts about really staying with this girl and making it work the only thing that i can say it good luck and hope that u dont get **** by this chick.
05-08-2008, 07:59 AM
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I haven't read all the responses, but I can say WAKE THE **** UP, she is in a tough spot right now and YOU are her ticket to getting back on her feet. I would get the **** out of dodge as quick as possible.
