Well my life was taken away from me yesterday
06-01-2009, 06:43 PM
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Well my life was taken away from me yesterday My wife told me after 9 years being together and 8 years being married that she was falling out of love with me and wanted to separate... Man I don't know what too do and I don't know how my 9 year old son and 3 year baby girl our going to react to this... I put all my heart into my marriage and **** just ripped it out and basically killed me... I don't know what I am going to do
06-01-2009, 07:00 PM
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Granted im a youngyion but ive had similiar problems. Just do everything you think you can to make it work. Maybe before you guys split try to kick up the romance *** and do something that you havent. Maybe get the inlaws to watch the kids and take her out for a nice dinner, then maybe go walk on the beach and enjoy a california sunset. Wouldnt try to buy stuff, but maybe make her realize you can still be the person she fell in love with and took the big i do's for. And if you need time to relax. maybe take you car out for a nice cruise either along the ocean or up to the mountains and have a picnic. Also if you can swing it hit up monterey or some place out of the big city. It aint over till its over my good friend and remeber a calm head prevails so stay cool and follow your heart.
06-01-2009, 07:15 PM
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Sorry to hear about it. I was engaged and it fell through cause of deployments, I know you situation is much more serious but its hard for women to deal with our type of life. It will all work out just make sure you are there for your kids they are now your biggest concern.
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Real sorry to hear that. Best advice I could give would be to concentrate on your kids and yourself. Show confidence and not panic. If she's at that point, give her some space and let her think on her own. Give her a chance to miss you.
If you do separate, I'd go on a date and let it get back to her. Funny how that might change her feelings real quick.
If you do separate, I'd go on a date and let it get back to her. Funny how that might change her feelings real quick.
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man that sucks, you never know what may come next, but all I can tell you is without pain joy is pointless......good luck man I hope everything works out....
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wow, fucken sucks. best thing to do is keep away from your wife, dont beg her or nothing along those lines, you will only make matters worse. just accept it and think about your kids. thats the most important thing right now. later on she gonna come back,,they always do
The only thing that'll accomplish is driving your wife into the arms of another man while you drown your sorrows in alcohol because you don't know why she FELL OUT OF LOVE!!!!
To the OP, you owe it to your kids to try to work things out. The worst thing you can do is accept it and then you end up seeing your kids on weekends only. I'd be dammed if some other guy became the father figure to my son because I didn't try my best to help the situation.
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Hey bro, Sorry to hear about that. There is some good advice here... One thing that makes my gf upset is when life is going so fast, that I don't have enough time for her... Make sure that you are paying attention to her and show her you care. All girls want is a little of your attention. Give it a shot... try your best for the kids.
Good luck bro
Good luck bro
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Thanks a lot guy's I appreciate the help and word's you guy's are giving me... I just can't believe this is happening and I feel like it's a bad dream and I can't wake up from it
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My wife told me after 9 years being together and 8 years being married that she was falling out of love with me and wanted to separate... Man I don't know what too do and I don't know how my 9 year old son and 3 year baby girl our going to react to this... I put all my heart into my marriage and **** just ripped it out and basically killed me... I don't know what I am going to do
Best advise is go to counseling and be very supportive to your children. I hope it works out for you and your family. Give her a set time. You can't wait for ever either. Love hurts, but it won't kill you. .
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Sorry to hear this. If you had a good marriage, couples just don't fall out of love. You have to be aware of you and your wife's surroundings at really look at was has changed in recent times. I've been married for 6 yrs. I've seen this way too many times from some of my friend’s relationships. There is always something that drives women to this extent.
Best advise is go to counseling and be very supportive to your children. I hope it works out for you and your family. Give her a set time. You can't wait for ever either. Love hurts, but it won't kill you. .
Best advise is go to counseling and be very supportive to your children. I hope it works out for you and your family. Give her a set time. You can't wait for ever either. Love hurts, but it won't kill you. .
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wow, fucken sucks. best thing to do is keep away from your wife, dont beg her or nothing along those lines, you will only make matters worse. just accept it and think about your kids. thats the most important thing right now. later on she gonna come back,,they always do